Relationship
a word bugging many of my buddies. You know what, this word has been driving the whole teen crowd insane. I have always pondered about what it actually means. But i have always concluded that its just a complex way to spend your precious time, money and peace of mind. This topic is not out from my spontaneous self but actually provoked by some of my inmates of the fairer sex. My comment on their thoughts and emotions would be
"Exaggeration",
as even we feel the same about them.
My 18 years of coed school life has taken me on a roll, and i have seen many chapters right in front of my eyes with myself in a lead role in some of em'.Actually a relationship is more linked to fame ahead of the emotions associated with them. One would certainly fly high being associated to a "hottie". A relationship is actually induced by the "J" effect and peer pressure. "My best friend has a gf, why not me??"-a most common question ambling in ones mind.Having a gf is an issue, moving around together is an issue, how long we hang up on phone is an issue, how much money the poor guy pours is an issue, and most importantly how much the relationship has proceeded in magnitude is an issue.However i do not emphasize on the magnitude, It all depends from person to person as to what he/she sets as a datum for satisfaction.Basically its the popularity a relationship grabs, which is a matter of pride for the couple, even though they don't speak out loud.Popularity here should not be taken in the wrong sense.But we do come across couples who don't get into such stuff.But this is what i see in public schools in metros where i have spent all my life. Its as simple as that, i would love to tell the world, the whole college, the whole peer group that i am a stupid boyfriend of a witty girlfriend who is instilling stupidity in me, and the fact is that guys like to act obtuse.
Ask me the truth, people are not desperate to get into relationships, but this desperation is being induced somehow.The word has produced musical vibrations in the air. Each and every person wants to experience and discover the truth behind a relationship. They get desperate to know why others are desperate to have a relationship.Once they are into a relationship, they get matured enough and think ten times before ending up in a new one. There is just a lack of maturity.Most importantly a relationship must be treated the way it has to be. One doesn't be too emotive, Come on folks its just another relationship. If you are into a relationship, it doesn't mean that you'll go on to marital status.Decisions at the later part of your life needs a thinking, but linking this to a teeny relationship is the height of immaturity.No use giving a damn about not having one. Take some experienced words, you are better off alone. No use getting exasperated, and showing your frustration .Remember the desperation is equal from both the sides except for the fact the boys accept it{mostly}, and the chics act as if they are gratified being alone.
a word bugging many of my buddies. You know what, this word has been driving the whole teen crowd insane. I have always pondered about what it actually means. But i have always concluded that its just a complex way to spend your precious time, money and peace of mind. This topic is not out from my spontaneous self but actually provoked by some of my inmates of the fairer sex. My comment on their thoughts and emotions would be
"Exaggeration",
as even we feel the same about them.
Chics dwell a wrong notion that boys are always after em'. Each bird has two wings, without which it can't fly.The whole bf-gf chapter is supported by both the sexes no doubt, whatsoever.So there is no point blaming each other of being more desperate to have a relationship. How come there are relationships existing if they were one sided.Being diplomatic , there is no need for icing on the cake, lets accept the fact.Lets not instill any controversy or a heated-debate.We respect your thoughts and expect the same from you.
My 18 years of coed school life has taken me on a roll, and i have seen many chapters right in front of my eyes with myself in a lead role in some of em'.Actually a relationship is more linked to fame ahead of the emotions associated with them. One would certainly fly high being associated to a "hottie". A relationship is actually induced by the "J" effect and peer pressure. "My best friend has a gf, why not me??"-a most common question ambling in ones mind.Having a gf is an issue, moving around together is an issue, how long we hang up on phone is an issue, how much money the poor guy pours is an issue, and most importantly how much the relationship has proceeded in magnitude is an issue.However i do not emphasize on the magnitude, It all depends from person to person as to what he/she sets as a datum for satisfaction.Basically its the popularity a relationship grabs, which is a matter of pride for the couple, even though they don't speak out loud.Popularity here should not be taken in the wrong sense.But we do come across couples who don't get into such stuff.But this is what i see in public schools in metros where i have spent all my life. Its as simple as that, i would love to tell the world, the whole college, the whole peer group that i am a stupid boyfriend of a witty girlfriend who is instilling stupidity in me, and the fact is that guys like to act obtuse.
Ask me the truth, people are not desperate to get into relationships, but this desperation is being induced somehow.The word has produced musical vibrations in the air. Each and every person wants to experience and discover the truth behind a relationship. They get desperate to know why others are desperate to have a relationship.Once they are into a relationship, they get matured enough and think ten times before ending up in a new one. There is just a lack of maturity.Most importantly a relationship must be treated the way it has to be. One doesn't be too emotive, Come on folks its just another relationship. If you are into a relationship, it doesn't mean that you'll go on to marital status.Decisions at the later part of your life needs a thinking, but linking this to a teeny relationship is the height of immaturity.No use giving a damn about not having one. Take some experienced words, you are better off alone. No use getting exasperated, and showing your frustration .Remember the desperation is equal from both the sides except for the fact the boys accept it{mostly}, and the chics act as if they are gratified being alone.
I also share a view that there is absolutely nothing wrong in a relationship.After all even we are humans and we love to love and be loved.Yeah, accept the fact that its stupidity, but there are millions of stupids in this world, don't tell me that this futility is at the last resort. Then why make such a big fuss about something which is kinda happening everywhere. India is a culture which dwells love and emotions, then why make a fuss about it. The attitude needs a change.A relationship is no big deal mind you. Its in the air, just inhale it and exhale, no need to think before you breathe. Some things happen with us just for the sake of it. If a relationship is foolish, the world is full of fools.
gimme a break, wait a second, did i call myself a fool??
6 comments:
what cn i say abt this blog.....
its just mindblowing dude....u hv done a fabulous job dere....seriously i hv hd exactly d same feelings but could not express them in such a decorative manner...hats off to ya buddy/...carry on!
BHOKAALI!! [:)]
every word of this blog is as true as love of one towards his/her mate......you showed a great courage to inherit spirit of prosperous living in mankind.....i hope everyone can learn something from your blog.......
you did a GREAT JOB.....
well done
Bhokaali comment indeed......for a few minutes i was thinking if i was wrong somewhere.....BUT.....u've taken a few things wrongly......firstly a relationship is not on papers{like its a deal sorts, that "you are my gf","we got to get things goin",crap}.....there is obviously some kinda bonding of love and affection between the two if there has to spring some chemistry for things to move on.....you just cant have a bf/gf for popularity......the relationship may attain a popularity gradually or an element of popularity may be induced in it....but at the ground level-->relationship is all about emotions and feelings of love<--
secondly there are all kinds of ppl everywhere, i do not refrain from accepting the fact that there are ppl with actual emotive feelings for each other and express the same though the way they express it may be different.....and i personally feel that a relationship isn't a true one if there is no element of love in it....Though i am hostile towards it, i must admit that generally feelings amongst the youth is more of "Lust" than "Love" and are concerned about the "magnitude" though they might not express it openly but have something else on their minds and express something else.....so the meaning here is defeated
Thirdly "Its juz another relationship, may not get too far" means what it literally means....people tend to dream too far and when their dreams are shattered, life may be hell....all what the line means is that you don't needta give too much importance{too much means tooooo much} to the future of the relationship.....let it go on and if destiny shows a goodwill gesture then well and gud, if not things may get screwed up.....so better treat it as just another relationship....nothin to lose!!!
and lastly dear......
i am a human being{damn sure abt that.....lol, maybe its gonna take some time to transform into an authentic human being}
even longer reply huh???
well looks like this is going to evolve in a very hot discussion . some are appreciating stuff which is a clear act of exaggeration.
but manju u discussed it well in a very general sense. why does this sense of hatred about boys vreeps in girls time and again , its a question which needs to be discussed extensively.
through your blog i would take chance to say something to above mentioned personality in your comments that its high time u need to buy an oxford or clean all the crap from ypur mind ....take a break
well munni.....ur blog is indeed thought provoking.a relationship is just a bond between two or more persons....we need not to think about it anymore.....i just wanna say that meaning and importance of a relationship changes person by person.today teenage crowd want just a FRUITFUL relationship & a 9-hour job providing 6-figure income......r our responsibilities that few....don't we hv ne duties towards our society nd nation....we need to change our thinking nd hv 2 make it more nation oriented.i don't know hw 2 induce these feelings in others but i want to change d attitude of this crowd......m nt sayin tht i m a perfect human being nd all others r fools.its not tht i don't get heated by gals but their r other things tht r more important than this.....so we need 2 change d motive of our life a bit.....k guys....bahut pi liye....m ending up here.....will continue nxt time.
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